Sex in Marriage: How to Explore New Horizons encourages couples to embrace intimacy as God intended. The sermon emphasizes that sexual desire, when properly channeled within marriage, is good and not evil. It explores biblical passages, particularly from Song of Solomon, to illustrate God’s design for marital intimacy. The message highlights the importance of open communication, mutual satisfaction, and creativity in the bedroom.
It addresses common misconceptions about sex in marriage and encourages spouses to fulfill their marital duties to one another. The sermon aims to help couples overcome sexual hang-ups, foster a stronger connection, and ultimately build a more fulfilling marriage in line with God’s plan.
Four Key Points from Sex in Marriage: How to Explore New Horizons:
1. In the heart of man is a desire to cleave to his wife.
2. Mankind was created not to be ashamed of their nakedness.
3. Sexual desire properly channeled is good, not evil.
4. Sex in marriage should be fun and undefiled.
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Sex in Marriage: How to Explore New Horizons
by Delbert Young
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Sex in Marriage: How to Explore New Horizons
Scriptures: Genesis 2:23-25, Song 1:16, Song 1:15-2:1, Song 1:2, Song 1:4, Song 1:13, Song 2:4, Song 2:5-6, Song 4:1-16, Song 5:10-16, Song 7:1-9, Song 7:10-12, Song 7:13, Genesis 30:14- 15, 1 Corinthians 7:1-2, Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 7:1-9,
Purpose today:
To See: (1) In the heart of man is a desire to cleave to his wife; (2) Mankind was created not to be ashamed of their nakedness; (3) Sexual desire properly channeled is good, not evil; (4) Sex in marriage should be fun and undefiled.
Parents, I will leave it to your discretion if you want your child to hear this. If I were sitting there where you are, I would make my child stay and listen. We allow the world to take sex and make it sneaky, nasty, and defiled. I believe our children need to know Titus 1:15, “Unto the pure all things are pure: but unto them that are defiled and unbelieving nothing is pure; but even their mind and conscience is defiled.
I want you to see today: (1) In the heart of man is a desire to cleave to his wife; (2) Mankind was created to not be ashamed of their nakedness; (3) sexual desire properly channeled is good, not evil; (4) Sex in marriage should be fun and undefiled.
In the heart of Adam
Genesis 2:23-25
23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife (‘ishshah woman): and they shall be one flesh.
25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
One flesh is a becoming.
They shall be one flesh
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
NIV – They will become one flesh
NASV – They shall become one flesh
We must understand that the marriage ceremony does not make us one flesh. So, it is not the expensive weddings or expensive rings. Also, it is not the house or the car. Furthermore, it is not the children. And it is not LOOOOOOVE that makes us one flesh.
What is it that causes the oneness? It is the cleaving.
In this thought of becoming one flesh, we also see it is a shall become or will become. We do what is necessary to become one flesh.
To become, we must first cleave.
Here is how the Hebrew word cleave appears in the Strong’s Concordance
dabaq, daw-bak’; prime. root; prop. To impinge, i.e., cling or adhere; fig. To catch by pursuit: – abide fast, cleave (fast together), follow close (hard after), be joined (together), keep (fast), overtake, pursue hard, stick, take.
Note that the primary meaning of the word in use in scriptures is to impinge. Impinge means to fall: With on, upon, or against: to infringe with or upon.
The primary thought of cleave is falling or laying with or upon against. This aids in bringing us into – becoming – one flesh. A major part of cleaving and becoming one flesh is this intimacy – falling together, against, infringing with, or upon.
Wife, if you genuinely want your husband to cleave to you, understand this lesson.
This came out of the very heart of man. It is in the very heart of your man. If you want him to cleave to you, don’t bring ashamedness into the sex aspect of your marriage. Make it exciting, get naked, and do not be ashamed.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
Man, you need to express to your woman what is in your heart.
You need to do it before you marry. Find someone you both can talk with openly that understands this concept. Hopefully, it is the parents. This is vital to your cleaving.
This is the principle of intimacy. It is sex, yet more than sex. We are talking about a vital part of a happy marriage.
What happened?
Genesis 2:25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
What happened? What entered, or better, who entered, that caused the change in the unashamed openness?
Sin entered; more specifically, the devil entered. The world entered. It is the same today in your marriage. He has taken what should be a marriage bed undefiled, green, and lively, and he has defiled it. We cannot even walk around in the same room naked and not feel ashamed. How can we ever cleave biblically and become one flesh?
Once again, allow me to remind you that I teach God’s ideal. I attempt to come at it from the spirit and mind of God.
Sin caused them to cover up. When sin enters a marriage, it destroys the openness and unashamed. If you are not having a proper, fulfilling marriage, it is because there is sin in the marriage. You may say, “Not me.” Is there selfishness, bitterness, stubbornness, harshness, anger, strife, and unwholesome speech? When there is sin – opposition to God’s will, there is a problem in the marriage.
How does God think about sex in marriage?
Second Text: Song of Solomon 1:16 – 2:1
How does God think about sex in marriage?
We know how He thinks about sex outside of marriage – Heb. 13:4
To get a renewed mind concerning sex in the marriage, we must try and grasp God’s mind on the subject. The world has such a perverted aspect of sex that it enters the church and defiles it. There is a book in the bible that encourages sex and desire. It encourages sexual responses. Unless this book is interpreted this way, it will make no sense.
The Song of Solomon.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
“The purpose of the book is to extol human love and marriage. Though at first this seems strange, on reflection, it is not surprising for God to have included in the biblical canon a book endorsing the beauty and purity of marital love. God created man and woman (Gen1:27, 2:20-23) and established and sanctioned marriage (Gen 2:24). Since the world views sex so sordidly and perverts and exploits it so persistently and since so many marriages are crumbling because of lack of love, commitment, and devotion, it is advantageous to have a book in the bible that gives God’s endorsement of marital love as wholesome and pure.” The Bible Knowledge Commentary, Jack S. Deere, p. 1010
You find courting, perfumes, oils, touching, and compliments throughout the book.
We will look at a few excerpts from the book in different translations.
The green (NIV – Verdant; NASV – Luxuriant) bed
Woman speaking.
Song 1:16 Behold, thou art fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant: also our bed is green.
NIV – How handsome you are, my lover! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant. (verdant – green with vegetation; covered with grass or green leaves; fresh) Where would Adam’s marriage bed have been?
NASV – “How handsome you are, my beloved, And so pleasant! Indeed, our couch is luxuriant!
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
Song 1:15-2:1
15 Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves’ eyes.
16 Behold, thou art fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant: also our bed is green.
17 The beams of our house are cedar, and our rafters of fir.
2:1 I am the rose of Sharon, and the lily of the valleys.
Notice how her self-worth is understood and proclaimed.
The woman thought the bed was good, fresh, and green.
It also speaks of some outdoor activities.
Song 1:2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.
NIV – Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth- for your love is more delightful than wine.
NASV – “May he kiss me with the kisses of his mouth! For your love is better than wine.
Song 1:4 Draw me, we will run after thee: the king hath brought me into his chambers: we will be glad and rejoice in thee, we will remember thy love more than wine: the upright love thee.
Your husband may not be a king, but you must make him feel like one. Your wife may not be what is described in this book, but you need to make her feel that she is to you, husband.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
We see her desire for intimacy.
Desire properly channeled is good, not evil.
Song 1:13 A bundle of myrrh is my well beloved unto me; he shall lie all night betwixt my breasts.
NIV – My lover is to me a sachet of myrrh resting between my breasts.
NASV – “My beloved is to me a pouch of myrrh Which lies all night between my breasts.
Song 2:4 “He has brought me to his banquet hall, And his banner over me is love.
Banqueting – Strong’s reference number: 3196
Hebrew: yayin
Derivation:
Definition: wine
“In 2:4 Shulamith comments that the king has brought her ‘to his banquet hall.’ The Hebrew literally translates, ‘house of wine.’ Every banquet of pleasure and joy in the Hebrew idiom is, as we have noted called by the name ‘wine.’ The ‘house of wine’ was a common oriental reference to the bridal chamber.” Solomon, Joseph C. Dillow, p. 28
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
Song 2:5 Stay me with flagons, comfort me with apples: for I am sick of love.
NIV – Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples, for I am faint with love.
NASV – “Sustain me with raisin cakes, Refresh me with apples, Because I am lovesick.
Sick of Love – Strong’s reference number: 2470
Hebrew: chalah
Derivation: A primary word
Definition: to be rubbed or work; sick; to intret
The banquet hall is the bed. In the bed is food as well as the couple. They love for a while and eat for a while. They are in no hurry, and they plan on being there for some time.
Song 2:6 His left hand is under my head, and his right hand doth embrace me.
NIV – His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me.
NASV – “Let his left hand be under my head And his right hand embrace me.”
“In 2:6 she requests that Solomon embrace her. Most Hebrew scholars agree this means to ‘stimulate sexually, or fondle.’ Franz Delitzsch, Commentary on the Song of Songs and Ecclesiastes, p. 49.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
Chapter 4
King (or the man) Speaks
Song 4:1: “Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves’ eyes within thy locks: thy hair is as a flock of goats, that appear from mount Gilead.
2 Thy teeth are like a flock of sheep that are even shorn, which came up from the washing; whereof every one bear twins, and none is barren among them.
3 Thy lips are like a thread of scarlet, and thy speech is comely: thy temples are like a piece of a pomegranate within thy locks.
4 Thy neck is like the tower of David builded for an armoury, whereon there hang a thousand bucklers, all shields of mighty men.
5 Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins, which feed among the lilies.
6 Until the day break, and the shadows flee away, I will get me to the mountain of myrrh, and to the hill of frankincense.
7 Thou art all fair, my love; there is no spot in thee. (Altogether beautiful to him)
8 Come with me from Lebanon, my spouse, with me from Lebanon: look from the top of Amana, from the top of Shenir and Hermon, from the lions’ dens, from the mountains of the leopards. (Enjoyed being together)
9 Thou hast ravished my heart, my sister, my spouse; thou hast ravished my heart with one of thine eyes, with one chain of thy neck.
NIV – You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.
NASV – “You have made my heart beat faster, my sister, my bride; You have made my heart beat faster with a single glance of your eyes, With a single strand of your necklace.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
10 How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse! how much better is thy love than wine! and the smell of thine ointments than all spices!
NIV – How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume than any spice!
NASV – “How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much better is your love than wine, And the fragrance of your oils Than all kinds of spices!
11 Thy lips, O my spouse, drop as the honeycomb: honey and milk are under thy tongue; and the smell of thy garments is like the smell of Lebanon.
12 A garden inclosed is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed.
13 Thy plants are an orchard of pomegranates, with pleasant fruits; camphire, with spikenard,
14 Spikenard and saffron; calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense; myrrh and aloes, with all the chief spices:
15 A fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, and streams from Lebanon.
16 Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
She responds. Let my beloved come into his garden and eat his pleasant fruits.
He totally complimented her but also was able to communicate and tell her what he enjoyed.
Chapter 5:10-16
She Responds
Song 5:10-16
10 My beloved is white (NIV – Radiant, NASV – Dazzling), and ruddy, (handsome), the chiefest among ten thousand.
11 His head is as the most fine gold, his locks are bushy, and black as a raven.
12 His eyes are as the eyes of doves by the rivers of waters, washed with milk, and fitly set.
13 His cheeks are as a bed of spices, as sweet flowers: his lips like lilies, dropping sweet smelling myrrh.
14 His hands are as gold rings set with the beryl: his belly (NASV – Abdomen, NIV – Body) is as bright ivory overlaid with sapphires.
15 His legs are as pillars of marble, set upon sockets of fine gold: his countenance is as Lebanon, excellent as the cedars.
16 His mouth is most sweet: (NASV – Full of sweetness) yea, he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, and this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem.
She complimented him and was able to tell him what she enjoyed. They were free to communicate, telling each other what brought them pleasure.
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Song 7:1-9
He speaks (years later)
1 How beautiful are thy feet with shoes, O prince’s daughter! the joints of thy thighs are like jewels, the work of the hands of a cunning workman.
2 Thy navel is like a round goblet, which wanteth not liquor: thy belly is like an heap of wheat set about with lilies.
3 Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins.
4 Thy neck is as a tower of ivory; thine eyes like the fish pools in Heshbon, by the gate of Bath-rabbim: thy nose is as the tower of Lebanon which looketh toward Damascus.
5 Thine head upon thee is like Carmel, and the hair of thine head like purple; the king is held in the galleries.
6 How fair and how pleasant art thou, O love, for delights!
7 This thy stature is like to a palm tree, and thy breasts to clusters of grapes.
8 I said, I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of the boughs thereof: now also thy breasts shall be as clusters of the vine, and the smell of thy nose like apples;
9 And the roof of thy mouth like the best wine for my beloved, that goeth down sweetly, causing the lips of those that are asleep to speak.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
Chapter 7:10-12
She Speaks
10 I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me.
11 Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages.
12 Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see if the vine flourish, whether the tender grape appear, and the pomegranates bud forth: there will I give thee my loves.
“In these verses, Shulamith invites Solomon for an escape into the forests of the Lebanon mountains to the north. There, she says, they will make love outdoors! I think any married couple would do well to follow her advice in planning a few getaways every year where they can renew their physical love and evaluate their marriage and goals in life. My wife and I try to do this at least twice a year. I wish we could do it once a month!
Note wives, Shulamith suggests this adventure away from the palace. There are places to make love other than the bedroom. Shulamith is suggesting they make love in the open air of the countryside. With a little careful research, you can probably find a private spot for you and your mate to enjoy…” Solomon, A Biblical Guide to Married Love, Joseph C. Dillow, p. 138
Song 7:13 The mandrakes give a smell, and at our gates are all manner of pleasant fruits, new and old, which I have laid up for thee, O my beloved.
The mandrake was considered an aphrodisiac – That which is given to stimulate sexual arousal.
Genesis 30:14 And Reuben went in the days of wheat harvest, and found mandrakes in the field, and brought them unto his mother Leah. Then Rachel said to Leah, Give me, I pray thee, of thy son’s mandrakes.
15 And she said unto her, Is it a small matter that thou hast taken my husband? and wouldest thou take away my son’s mandrakes also? And Rachel said, Therefore he shall lie with thee to night for thy son’s mandrakes.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
I want to project the idea that it is all right to create an aphrodisiac atmosphere. A little drink, a little food, a little talk, and a little creativity will create an atmosphere fulfilling to both.
They were not ashamed
1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
NIV – 7:1 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.
2 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.
NASV – 7:1Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 But because of immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
The marriage bed is a deterrent to immorality.
The marriage bed is in contrast to whoremongers and adulterers. The person is to find his or her necessary satisfaction in the marriage bed. Here in lies an openness that is often missing in marriages. The author of Hebrews says we had better learn how to act in the marriage bed. If you look to outside satisfaction, God will judge you.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
The marriage bed is honorable in all and undefiled.
It is totally giving of one person to another. God’s intention is to share everything. The woman is to share her body. The woman has no right to refuse her husband, not even because of a headache. You have no right to fast without first talking to your husband. Not even sickness is a biblical excuse.
We share our bodies. Also, we share our possessions. Furthermore, we share our insights and ideas, our problems, our sufferings, our failures, our joys, and fantasies.
PART 2 Sex in the Marriage or Baby I Need Your Lovin’
Purpose: To see why a sexual relationship is necessary in marriage.
First Text: 1 Corinthians 7:1-9
1 Corinthians 7:1-9 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
Why sex in marriage
To Avoid Immorality
To understand this passage, it may be good to give a historical perspective. First, the city of Corinth was much like America is today. Sex was worshiped. The temple of Aphrodite houses one thousand prostitutes called vestal virgins. It was the desire of the women to be a vestal virgin because, in the religion of Aphrodite, that was the ultimate achievement of a woman. Only the prettiest and most glamorous could be vestal virgins. Today, though we do not call it the temple of Aphrodite, sex continues to be worshiped.
We cannot sell a Coke or a car without a nearly naked woman involved. We cannot draw a crowd to a movie unless there is adequate sex in it. The highest-rated TV programs are full of sex. We are deluged with pictures of desire. To many women, they must look a certain way to be “sexy.” Only the best and most glamorous are on magazine covers.
In verse 26, Paul speaks about “this present distress.” He refers to this situation of Aphrodite. We, too, can speak of this present distress. Disease was rampant. Unwanted pregnancies were aborted, or the child offered in ritualistic sacrifice. Minds were crazy with pornographic thoughts.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
To this, Paul says in verse 1, “It is good for a man not to touch a woman.”
1 Corinthians 7:1-2 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
NIV – 7:1 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.
NASV – 7:1 Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 But because of immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication (NIV – since there is so much immorality), let every man have his own wife and let every woman have her own husband.
So, in the mind of the Apostle Paul, what is a reason for a man to have a wife and a wife to have a husband?
I want us to understand, according to this scripture, that the wife is to help the husband avoid immorality. The husband is to help the wife avoid immorality. It is not a spouse’s fault if the other commits immorality (We are free from sin).
A purpose of your marriage is to help one another in the area of sexual desire.
How do you do that? You find what the other’s sexual desire is and try to help him or her. I know you can get into some kinky stuff. I am not talking about wife-swapping or masochistic stuff. I’m talking about things we can enjoy together.
Remember the marriage bed is honorable in all and undefiled.
Marital duty
1 Corinthians 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
NIV – The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.
NASV – Let the husband fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband
Due – Strong’s reference number: 3784
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
Greek: opheilo
Derivation: Same base as 3786
Definition: to owe; be under obligation
Benevolence – Strong’s reference number 2133
Greek: eunoia
Derivation: Derived from 2132, 2095, 3563, 1097
Definition: kindness
Strong’s reference number: 3563
Greek: nous
Derivation same base as 1097
Definition: the intellect
There is an obligation of the spouse to minister to the intellect. This is a kindness.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
Example – There will be times when a banquet table is inappropriate, but a desire has manifested nonetheless. There is a biblical obligation of a spouse to satisfy the other. This is not weird, and this is not immoral. It is one reason we marry – to keep one another from immorality.
How can I just do it anytime?
1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
NIV – The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.
NASV – The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
Power – Strong’s reference number: 1850
Greek: exousiazo
Derivation: Derived from 1849
Definition: to control
Why are God’s people destroyed? Lack of knowledge. Hosea 4:6 tells us because we reject his ways he rejects us. We do not have understanding.
How can I do this? By understanding that my body is not mine only. It also belongs to my wife. She must understand that her body is not hers only. It also belongs to me. I must understand it is kindness. It is not nasty or dirty. I am not ashamed.
By all means, I do not want to low-rate marriage. This is an honest face of facts in a marriage. A strong marriage will have a strong sexual relationship. It is a component of the marriage. If you want a strong, good marriage, these components demand attention just as finances, just as child discipline, just as spending time together. Effort is demanded.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
Do not deprive each other except…
1 Corinthians 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
NIV – Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
NASV – Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again lest Satan tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
The only biblical reason we have to deprive the other spouse of sexual gratification is fasting and prayer.
And that is by permission or consent of the other spouse. Even then, as soon as it is over, come together again. Why? So Satan cannot tempt you.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
Halt Satan’s Temptation
Notice that Paul clearly tells you that your spouse is tempted without sufficient care. Satan will be sure of it. One of Satan’s greatest temptations is sexual. Paul says the way to defeat this is a proper sexual relationship within the marriage. There is no other possible meaning for this passage.
The only people not tempted are people with a special gift of and from God.
1 Corinthians 7:7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
NIV – 7 I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am.
9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
NASV – 7 Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift from God, one in this manner, and another in that.
8 But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I.
9 But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn.
I know the NIV translates this burn as burn with passion. I am not sure that is what it means. Paul does not say burn with passion. It could easily mean the wages of sexual immorality. It is better to marry and take care of sexual desire than to burn in hell because of immorality.
Hebrews 13:4 marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
The marriage bed is a deterrent to immorality.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
The marriage bed is in contrast to the immorality of whoremongers and adulterers.
The person is to find his or her necessary satisfaction in the marriage bed.
Here in lies an openness that is often missing in marriages. The author of Hebrews says we had better learn how to act in the marriage bed. If you look to outside satisfaction, God will judge you.
The marriage bed is honorable in all and undefiled.
It is totally giving of one person to another. God’s intention is to share everything. The woman is to share her body. The woman has no right to refuse her husband, not even because of a headache. You have no right to fast without first talking to your husband. Not even sickness is a biblical excuse. People need sex.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
We share our bodies. Likewise, we share our possessions. Also, we share our insights and ideas, our problems, our sufferings, our failures, our joys, and fantasies.
To return to a garden life, we must overcome sexual hang-ups.
We must understand being naked and not being ashamed in the marriage. We can spiritualize it all we want, but if it is not right in the marriage, you can destroy your marriage.
Over the past eight messages, we have explored building a home or building a hell. My purpose at the onset was five fold:
Some of you have suffered divorce, failed marriages, and failed homes. You will probably remarry. I wanted to help you prepare for success.
Some of us, at this very moment, are living in a hell at home. You struggle to survive but will not continue unless you get help. I want to help you get some help.
Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes
Some of us have children that do not serve the Lord or we have children in rebellion. I wanted to help you understand why and what to do.
Some have never married but desire to. I wanted to help you prepare and release you from the world’s pressure. It is not good to be alone. It is good that some do not marry.
Some of us have great marriages. I wanted to help make them better. How’s your sex life in your marriage?
I feel this series has been a complete success.
Plus, I have shared things I’ve never shared before. As a matter of fact, I was frank and transparent. We looked at hundreds of scriptures. We have a much better understanding of God’s words concerning many components of marriage and a home.
Sex in Marriage: How to Explore New Horizons
Sex in Marriage: How to Explore New Horizons
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