Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise sermon video audio notes. Does God love a homosexual person? Then where must we stand as sons and daughters of God toward the homosexual person? I am well aware most of us have loved ones who are involved in a same-sex relationship or struggle in this area. Some here struggle, but I know that ALL of us have opinions. What I want to do today is see what God has to say about the subject.


By Pastor Delbert Young

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise







Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

Scriptures: Genesis 1:26-24, Genesis 2:24, Genesis 18:20, Genesis 19:4-11, Genesis 19:24-25, Leviticus 18:22-25, Romans 1:26-28, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, 1 Timothy 1:9-10, Jude 1:4, Jude 1:7-8, 2 Peter 2:6-10, Matthew 19:4-6

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

Off the top, I will ask you, “Does God love a homosexual person?” Then where must we stand as sons and daughters of God toward the homosexual person? I am going to be very sensitive to this subject. I am well aware most of us have loved ones who are involved in a same-sex relationship or struggle in this area. Some here may struggle with the issue, but I know that ALL of us have opinions. What I want to do today is see what God has to say about the subject. Are Same-Sex Relationships The Same?

There is a great deal of discussion and even violence concerning this issue in our society today. It is controversial. It has become a civil rights issue, although it’s not a civil rights issue. It’s not a political issue, although it has become a political issue. It is a God issue. It is a biblical issue.

Homosexual activists have a very aggressive agenda.

What once was in a “closet” is in the “open” as activists saturate the media and culture with this issue today. They dominate the arts and are influencing the church. What once was marginal is now mainstream in America. What was out on the edge is now central and center stage in your culture, television, movies, your child’s school, you name it. This issue is more prolific today than the abortion issue. There is a political movement, a cultural movement, and you are being challenged to not only accept homosexuality but approve of the homosexual lifestyle.

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

The Supreme Court struck down the laws on sodomy, which has the potential to change the social order in America. You and I can’t live in blind compliance with this issue, but neither can we live in arrogant opposition to this issue. We need truth. What does God say?

Here is how I will approach our talk today.

First, I will give you some statistics from studies and quotes from researchers. Then, I’m going to ask you to put aside all your personal feelings, personal experiences, personal opinions, and what society is saying. I am asking you to look through the eyes of the word of God. God needs you to think biblically. That way, you won’t be upset with me. Plus, you will realize the very soul of someone you care deeply about could be at stake in your hearing accurately. Perhaps that soul is your soul struggling in this area of same-sex attraction. To help others and yourself, you must know what God says. Remember, God desperately loves these people.

First, let’s avoid labels. When we say someone “IS gay” or “IS homosexual,” we are saying that IS WHAT they are. It’s like saying someone is a human being. I can’t change my being a human. We put an identity on them which says they cannot change. Through Jesus Christ, anyone can change.

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

To answer our primary question, we’ll need to address these questions: “Is same-sex attraction a choice or a chance?” “Is a person born homosexual?” “Is it something you are or something you learned?”

Our personalities are greatly developed by the age of 6, but our families and environment affect us even before birth.

Before birth, as well as before, walking, before talking, the influence is there. You will hear many living this lifestyle say, “I was born this way. There’s always been this attraction in me.” Truthfully, as far back as they can remember, there was that tendency. Some say it as a justification, but some say it truthfully. There was a homosexual influence as far back as they can remember.

Early sexual experimentation has a profound effect on any person’s psychology. We know what sexual abuse as a child does to a person. Peer pressure tremendously contributes to this lifestyle. These greatly add to the situation. Still, there are children raised in the best of Christian homes and the best environments who find themselves in this lifestyle.

Frequently, children who develop in the homosexual area are searching for love, affirmation, and approval.

If the person is crying out for these and feels he or she finds it in a same-sex relationship, they feel fulfilled.

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

“As pediatricians, our primary interest is in the health and well-being of children and youth,” Dr. Den Trumbull, Vice President of the College. “We are increasingly concerned that in too many instances, misinformation or incorrect assumptions are guiding well-intentioned educators to adopt policies that are actually harmful to those youth dealing with sexual confusion.”

 “Even children with Gender Identity Disorder (when a child desires to be the opposite sex) will typically lose this desire by puberty, if the behaviour is not reinforced.

 Such premature labeling, they said, can lead some adolescents to engage in homosexual behaviors that carry serious physical and mental health risks. It noted that these health risks seen “among adolescents who claim a ‘gay’ identity” are: “higher rates of sexually transmitted infections, alcoholism, substance abuse, anxiety, depression and suicide.”

 Because there is no scientific evidence that anyone is born gay or transgendered, the College noted, schools should not teach or imply to students that homosexual attraction is innate, always life-long and unchangeable.

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

This is saying children do experiment in these areas and what may appear to be a disorder. If guided correctly, the child will correct the sexual confusion around puberty. It’s also saying that if not properly guided, the child is highly susceptible to sexual infections, alcoholism, drug abuse, anxiety, depression, and suicide.

We are asking the question, “Are same-sex relationships really the same?” Let’s examine the studies that show this.

“Studies indicate that the average male homosexual has hundreds of sex partners in his lifetime, a lifestyle that is difficult for even ‘committed’ homosexuals to break free of and which is not conducive to a healthy and wholesome atmosphere for the raising of children.”

This study goes on to list several ways same-sex relationships differ from heterosexual relationships.

Severe Promiscuity and Unfaithfulness

Unhealthy – attracts disease

Violence – “In a survey of 1,099 lesbians, the Journal of Social Service Research found that “slightly more than half of the [lesbians] reported that they had been abused by a female lover/partner. The most frequently indicated forms of abuse were verbal/emotional/psychological abuse and combined physical-psychological abuse.”

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

High Incidence of Mental Health Problems

Substance Abuse

Greater Risk of Suicide

Reduced Life Span

Incest – “A disproportionate percentage–29 percent–of the adult children of homosexual parents had been specifically subjected to sexual molestation by that homosexual parent, compared to only 0.6 percent of adult children of heterosexual parents”


God has spoken on this issue. We either accept it or reject it, but God has spoken.

The practice of homosexuality is a sin, bringing severe judgment. Let’s look at the very first page of the Bible.

Genesis 1:26-27 Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness…” So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; MALE AND FEMALE he created them.

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

God created people, male and female.

Genesis 2:24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be UNITED TO HIS WIFE, and THEY WILL BECOME ONE FLESH.

You perhaps heard the argument for “gay marriage.” Gay marriage is an oxymoron. It contradicts itself.

“By contrast, homosexual acts cannot be procreative and cannot unite people organically. As a result, these acts cannot be marital, which means relationships integrated around them cannot be marriages. In other words, same-sex partners are physically incapable of marriage; it takes a man and a woman to become “one flesh.”

It’s not an issue of homosexual marriage being right or wrong. It’s impossible! Two people of the same sex are incapable of marriage. Those who argue for “same-sex marriage” are not arguing for “the love of marriage.” Their argument is for their own agendas and acceptance. God had a clear pattern for the construction of society. It begins with a man and a wife. This structure of family is the foundation of society. God is clear on the structure of home and family.

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

Sin distorts and muddies the clearness. Man and woman’s sexual identity is defined by God. God said all he created was good, meaning the way it should be. It was created as good and holy.

On the very first page of the Bible, God speaks and says how the sexual relationship should be.

The unity is to be man united to his wife. No one argues that men and women are different. We are different physically, emotionally, and physiologically, even in how we process information. God gave marriage to bring completion and oneness. As we come together, we become one flesh. To do this, it requires a man and a woman. It is within this relationship, and only this relationship, that procreation takes place. Of course there can be insemination, but that requires a man someplace. Procreation requires a man and a woman.

This is the foundation of society, and as the family goes, so goes society, and so goes that nation. Homosexuality goes all the way back to the book of Genesis. Most are familiar with the story of Sodom and Gomorrah. Of course, it is from the city of Sodom we get our word sodomy.

Genesis 18:20 Then the LORD said, “The outcry against Sodom and Gomorrah is so great and their sin so grievous

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

The Lord sent two angels in the appearance of men to remove Lot and his family from Sodom. Lot feared for the men and took the men to his house.

Genesis 19:4-11 Before they had gone to bed, all the men from every part of the city of Sodom – both young and old – surrounded the house. They called to Lot, “Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us so that we can have sex with them.” Lot went outside to meet them and shut the door behind him and said, “No, my friends. Don’t do this wicked thing. Look, I have two daughters who have never slept with a man. Let me bring them out to you, and you can do what you like with them. But don’t do anything to these men, for they have come under the protection of my roof.”

“Get out of our way,” they replied. And they said, “This fellow came here as an alien, and now he wants to play the judge! We’ll treat you worse than them.” They kept bringing pressure on Lot and moved forward to break down the door. But the men inside reached out and pulled Lot back into the house and shut the door. Then they struck the men who were at the door of the house, young and old, with blindness so that they could not find the door.

No sooner had Lot and his family safely gotten away from Sodom when we read,

Genesis 19:24-25 Then the LORD rained upon Sodom and upon Gomorrah brimstone and fire from the LORD out of heaven; And he overthrew those cities, and all the plain, and all the inhabitants of the cities, and that which grew upon the ground.

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

Homosexuality and rampant immorality bring judgment upon any society and nation.

Leviticus 18:22-25 “‘Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable. “‘Do not have sexual relations with an animal and defile yourself with it. A woman must not present herself to an animal to have sexual relations with it; that is a perversion. “‘Do not defile yourselves in any of these ways, BECAUSE THIS IS HOW THE NATIONS THAT I AM GOING TO DRIVE OUT BEFORE YOU BECAME DEFILED. Even the land was defiled; so I punished it for its sin, and the land vomited out its inhabitants.

No nation has ever survived rampant immorality. We cannot allow our nation to go any further down the road of immorality. Rampant immorality makes the land vomit. Righteousness exalts a nation (Pro 14:34).

You may hear the argument that those laws were Old Covenant, and we no longer have them. Is that correct?

Romans 1:26-28 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged NATURAL RELATIONS FOR UNNATURAL ONES. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were INFLAMED WITH LUST FOR ONE ANOTHERMen committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion. Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain THE KNOWLEDGE OF GOD, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done.

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

You cannot call natural what God says is unnatural. People are not “made that way.” We can attempt to justify by saying Old Covenant, etc., but the knowledge of God says it is a sin and has penalties. Lust out of control becomes more and more depraved. God will let a person go there if that is what they want, but warns of the penalties of depravity. The honest truth is not that a person “was born this way.” The honest truth is a depraved mind which could have happened in the womb, or before age six.

Paul didn’t say “possessed mind.” It’s not demon possession. Paul said, “Depraved mind.” It’s mind depravity. Does that mean the person is a bad person? Of course not. Other than this area, they are probably gentle, sweet, loving, and caring people. However, that does not change the penalties and judgment they bring on themselves.

1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. AND THAT IS WHAT SOME OF YOU WERE. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

We will return to this verse shortly, but don’t miss the “that is what some of you WERE.” Any of those sins in an unrepentant state are in opposition to God and, therefore, wrong. But take note of “WERE.” People can change.

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

1 Timothy 1:9-10 This means understanding that the law is laid down not for the innocent but for the lawless and disobedient, for the godless and sinful, for the unholy and profane, for those who kill their father or mother, for murderers, fornicators, sodomites, slave traders, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to the sound teaching

Jude 1:4  For certain men whose condemnation was written about long ago have secretly slipped in among you. They are godless men, who change the grace of our God into a license for immorality and deny Jesus Christ our only Sovereign and Lord.

He’s talking about men in their pulpit changing God’s grace into a license for immorality. I can’t stand here and tell you homosexuality is ok with God. I would be a godless man. Make certain you see Jude’s specific context.

Jude 1:7-8 In a similar way, Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding towns gave themselves up to sexual immorality and perversionTHEY SERVE AS AN EXAMPLE of those who suffer the punishment of eternal fire. In the very same way, these dreamers pollute their own bodies, reject authority and slander celestial beings.

2 Peter 2:6-10 if he condemned the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah by burning them to ashes, and made them an example of what is going to happen to the ungodly; and if he rescued Lot, a righteous man, who was distressed by the filthy lives of lawless men (for that righteous man, living among them day after day, was tormented in his righteous soul by the lawless deeds he saw and heard) – if this is so, then the Lord knows how to rescue godly men from trials and to hold the unrighteous for the day of judgment, while continuing their punishment. This is especially true of those who follow the corrupt desire of the sinful nature and despise authority…

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

We are on thin ice when we approve of any sin. These things are the depreciation of a society and speak to the end of a nation.

Matthew 19:4-6 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

Jesus said don’t attempt to change what God created. Old Testament, New Testament, apostles, and Jesus all say the sexual relationship between a man and a woman (wife) is sacred and holy. The sexual relationship between people of the same sex is immoral, sinful, condemned, and brings penalties and judgment.

Here’s the hope. Every sin, including homosexuality, can be forgiven and cleansed. Homosexuality and lesbianism can be overcome and its bondage broken. The blood of Jesus Christ can cleanse any sin. It can cleanse and change any heart. In the verse we read earlier…

1 Corinthians 6:11 AND THAT IS WHAT SOME OF YOU WERE. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

Anyone who struggles with or practices homosexuality can put it in the past tense when in a true relationship with Jesus Christ. There is no person and no sin that the blood of Jesus Christ cannot wash, sanctify, and then justify – just as if it never happened.

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

My goal is not to condemn anyone. My job and your job is to speak the truth about sin, not justify sin. Our job is to love people, not judge and condemn people. Our job is to bring people to a SAVIOR who can truly save them from sin, its penalties, and its punishment.

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

Same-Sex Relationships - How to Love Without Compromise

Same-Sex Relationships – How to Love Without Compromise

Other Related Sermons:

1 Corinthians Chapter 5 Audio

Sex In The Marriage 1

Sex in Marriage sermon video audio notes

Marriage Bed Sex Part 2 Audio

Also see:

Sermons Change The World

Delbert Young Sermons YouTube